|The most unflattering picture of me-ever!
I was attempting to take a picture of
Ted & the dogs, my camera was
the wrong way!
I'd never share this on
Facebook...or would I?
If Facebook is supposed to be full of our family and friends why aren't we authentic and genuine? Yesterday, I was a last minute invite to the American Heart Association Go Red Luncheon. While that may not be a big deal to most people it was HUGE for me. I'm calendar driven and I rarely do things on impulse. But for years I've seen pictures of people I know in attendance and my inner teenager really wanted to go hang out with the cool kids so of course I said yes. I immediately knew what I'd wear and headed out the door like a love sick teenager!
It was an expo, geared to all things for womens heart health! Heart disease is the #1 killer of women!!! Here we were, adult women who like hungry, greedy for more-more-more, I've got the galloping gimmees kids in the Bernstein Bears book-we picked up a bag and made the rounds to the tables. Scribbling our names and numbers in hopes of winning a massage, a yoga mat or some exercise equipment. With false eyelashes and bright red lipstick in place we gathered pieces of chocolate, stress squeezies and other freebies that left me wondering why will we (society collectively) pick anything up for free??? Even things we'll never need or use? By the way a HUGE thank you to the sponsors yesterday, anything I don't use will be taken to the Women's Crisis Center in Rogers.
But I digress. At the 15th Anniversary Go Red for Women luncheon I was blessed to hear Dr. Phil. (Yes, I just typed that-never would I have ever imagined I'd be typing that I was blessed by Dr. Phil.) He spoke of how one year from today, he could GUARANTEE that our life would be better OR worse...our choice. He then touched on something are you doing with your life today what you want to be doing or are you doing it because it's what you did yesterday? Were you doing what you did yesterday because it's what you did the day before...not beause it's what you choose to do but because you've accepted it-not what you want to do or what you're meant to do but you do it because it's just what you do?? We generate the results in life that we believe we deserve-so if we feel we're not worthy or have a low self esteem, we generate results that go along with it AND we model it for our kids and they'll accept a "less than" life. He spoke of the image we want to convey and how we should dress it, live it, own it. (While wearing my funky red glasses, an exciting red dress, leggings and my 2019 Pride Converse with rainbow lades, I felt that my outside was very accurately portraying my inside.) Again, we all make a statement and we teach others how to treat us based on that statement. What do you believe you deserve? If you're damaged then you need to fix it, the statement you show (consciously or subconsciously) is VERY cleary to other people.
We're all guilty. Even when we're not conscious of our attempts to deceive our friends and family we're doing it! We post about our victories, our personal wins. We share about our kids high score or winning soccer goal while leaving out the hours spent arguing about studying or the tutor that costs as much as a mortgage or how much we hate spending hours at the soccer field, or maybe our kid hates it too but we keep on because it's what we are supposed to do. We want to give the appearance of living a flawless life with no struggles but life is just not that way!!!
I came away yesterday wondering, really-really wondering what do people see? What image do I portray? My real image-not the smoke & mirrors, no trickery or deception, no Facebook perfection. Who am I?
|I actually did look pretty good yesterday!